Tuesday, January 03, 2006
.friends?.
last night, one of my BMT mate whom i have lost contact since BMT days called me. In a desperate tone, he told me : " Gavin right?, I need to borrow some money from you. My dad suffered a stroke and i am really desperate. I need to raise $7K ... and i need your help. " I was stunned for a moment because its the first time somebody actually called me up to borrow such a HUGE sum of $$ ( $2000 ).. and he is somebody whom I rarely communicate with during my BMY days and have never gone out with him after that. Under such circumstances, would you have lend him the money? Think.
Obviously, I told him I couldnt help. He seem to anticipate that and asked if i know other people who could help him. Soon, we ended the conversation.
BUT... somehow, I started to ponder after that. I was affected by him definitely because he sounded really desperate and already in despair. If he had other choices, I am sure he wouldn't have stood so low to get my number from some other people just to ask me for money isn't it? And, if the operation is to delay any further, his dad's life will be at risk. I contemplated for long before I decided to ask my dad for his opinion....
To cut short, he called me again 4 times today and.. we decided to lend him a modest sum for him to tide over the crisis. erhm.
this makes me realise how weak friendships are actually. he told me he tried asking from his friends, but most of them hung up on him, or chose not to answer his call after saying : " i confirm first " . Are the friends you are currently having fun with so shallow? They have fun with you, laugh with you, study with you.. but when u have financial problems, everybody starts avoiding you? I guess, to a certain extent, this happens. I don't expect my friends to help me out financially too , BUT what if I am at my wit's end.. and they chose to abandon me?! sad. sad. sad.
i shed a tear today while watching the 9pm show - the scene when the dad turned soft-hearted after seeing the apology note from his son. I know its just a normal scene on any normal day, but... when things start getting emotional, i don't know why but i feel i have been a really unfilial son and i HAVE to change that. Never take things for granted. yea yea. *constantly reminding myself*
i hope i have more true friends around who would be around me when i really need help. sounds gay whatsoever, but.. i really yearn for that. As for my family, I know they will always be there for me whenever i need them.
i am elated at the moment. shall not tell you why! hehe. wohoo!
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10:13 PM